I can't get a person I love out of my head or heart. How do I do this?
I've been 'in love' with this person for 18 months and the yearn is a constant in my heart. The worst thing is, he doesn't seem to want me on a 'lover' level. That makes it hard for me cos I've always wanted him on that level. I keep trying to move on from my feelings for him but I'm finding it harder and harder, at each day that passes; like a magnet continually being pulled and attracted to him. Like my heart is not letting go of the feelings for some reason. Like my soul never wants to forget him. I wish he felt the same. I know feelings can't be forced but when I'm with him, it feels like he has strong feelings. Maybe I've been wrong all along. Maybe I'm stupid. Maybe I'm just a sad romantic who ought to get real. Maybe I'm just hopelessly in love.
I miss him soo much. I really do.
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I see Jax has been here too. Everwhere I go!
It's a hard one babe. Ideally yer need to stay clear of 'em until it's under control. Depends how easy that is. Sooner or later you'll run into someone and this one'll be behind you.
Happened to me just before I met Caz. It was tough but now they're just a memory. Give it time. x
Yeas, hi to Jax!
It is a hard one 4D cos he's just on my mind soo much. I miss him and I just always have that 'gut like' feeling about him. Maybe I'm just too deluded and really need to get a grip. But, you just can't help your feelings and I'm in no place right now (emotionally)
to even think about meeting someone new. God, life's hard at times.
x
Unrequited love is a real bitch. My advise would be to just forget about it... ha haa that's so bloomin easy to say.
But seriously life is just too short if he knows how you feel and doesn't feel the same then move on it's not right and never will be.
I used to have a thing for someone. I felt strongly towards a young lady and the fact of the matter is she just didn't fancy me or want me and we were friends and all that bollocks until one day she relented and we started a brief relationship it was a big mistake and I ended up realising it's just not what I expected and the reason for it was she was never into me in the first place, she probably thought I was a nice guy and what the hell she's had enough bad types... I never got stalkerish or obsessed which is what can happen here.
I've had several long term relationships from 2 to 7 years so I'm not some jack the lad.
Now I am all grown up and thought I'll never meet Miss Right... at 34 I have met a woman who is into me as much as I am into her from the begining from the very offset everything just fits and it's great. You can never get this from unrequited love, it's impossible you will feel inferior in the relationship and always ask why he didn't bloody recognise what he meant to you ect ect..
My advice is thus. If you haven't told him how you feel ( Sorry I have not read every page of your blog ) then tell him and see where it all falls.
If you have told him then just forget it he's not into you in that way and you'll always wonder why he wasn't even if you get him. Don't become a bunny boiler.. it's a dark path.
x
Cheers Doogie for your long response. I agree with everything you've said and there's no way I'll ever become a 'bunny boiler' - not really my style.
I too have had long relationships, that have both ended mutually but this love just feels somewhat different. Yeah, I need to get on with my life. I suppose I always hoped that there'd be a possibility of us sharing more good, special times. It's just a hard one when you have shared good times and never want them to end.
That's true but also special times are waiting for you with someone new.
Every relationship I have ended or been ended for me I have thought "How will I ever meet someone like x y or z ?" not that I go for girls with single letter names but...
You do move on, you do find new people and if you are lucky you wonder how you ever did without that person. You almost thank the time you spent with others just because they kept you occupied long enough to meet the new one at the right time :)
I don't belive in "The One" I believe there are many people out there we can truly fall in love with.
The most important thing in a loving long term relationship is when you find the one that loves you the same and there is no compromises either side on any of the main attractions. if that makes sense !
Maybe it's that I have been lucky this time and found someone who thinks for some reason I'm her idea of a perfect man... god that sound proposterous. Maybe she is the one ? one in 6.5 billion.
Besides the comfort of being in love and being loved back... looking for someone to love can be fun too.
"A mighty pain to love it is,
And 'tis a pain that pain to miss;
But of all pains, the greatest pain
It is to love, but love in vain."
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