Sometimes in life, you get the feeling that someone wants to tell you something but daren't. You get the feeling that because they keep implying that they're a 'bad person', that you therefore, need to be pushed away, because you're supposedly a 'good person'and deserve better; That they have such an enormous sense of guilt for their behaviour, that they feel ashamed on one level and unworthy.
In my opinion, life isn't so clear cut and black and white as that. I know people have the capacity to treat each other badly, but I always have a very forgiving heart and always will have. I try myself not to treat other people in a negative sense but sometimes I know that the most patient of people and indeed me, can be tested at times and thus respond in a sharp and angry manner when tested.This doesn't mean that I lose faith in a person.
My day job consists of working with some of what society would call the 'worst and baddest' people ever - Men and women who have committed different crimes. My outlook on these people, is to never judge anyone for what they have done but try to understand what caused them to commit such crimes. I also practice this belief in my friendships and love life (when I have one!)
OK there may be times when I have the feeling of anger and resentment but this is smoothed over for me, by trying to understand and indeed, have empathy with people.
I remember an older guy, who sort of 'mentored' me, when I first start working with excluded kids, commenting to me about how very empathetic and compassionate I was. He reminded me to never lose that sense of empathy and that it was a quality that can be difficult to come by.
So what I'm trying to say is, that to he who has been such a dominant part in my heart for the last two years, I've never viewed him as unworthy, or bad or undeserving. My heart has too much love in it to think these things about him and indeed anyone else. And indeed if there were ever anything he felt a need to talk about, I'd listen to him with all of my heart and try to understand him. But I'd never judge him for this or lose my feeling of love for him.
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Hard to come by indeed! It takes a special person to be able to be that compassionate and understanding. I think I used to be, but the human race has worn me down and I am not as much anymore... Sometimes people can really take your faith away. Kudos to you if you can withstand and keep it up... :)
I'm not and I am. Depends. Is that wrong?
the most beautiful thing and the toughest thing in the world must be to suffer and experience all but keeping a childish heart with with innocent love to people all round...i appreciate that! well, speaking the truth, sometimes i am while sometimes i am not.life sucks,and we people do want to protect ourselves.
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